Having been doing some reading on the “manosphere” (I fucking hate that word, can’t we just call them mens’ interest blogs or something?), I came across “The Scale” on The Alpha Persona. The Scale is a replacement for the traditional Alpha/Beta phraseology used on these types of blogs, and was originally created by Vox Day.
Well done, now I’m gonna compare a real life Alpha to what I consider myself to be – A Sigma.
Alpha: The alpha is the tall, good-looking guy who is the center of both male and female attention. The classic star of the football team who is dating the prettiest cheerleader. The successful business executive with the beautiful, stylish, blonde, size zero wife. All the women are attracted to him, while all the men want to be him, or at least be his friend. At a social gathering like a party, he’s usually the loud, charismatic guy telling self-flattering stories to a group of attractive women who are listening with interest. However, alphas are only interested in women to the extent that they exist for the alpha’s gratification, physical and psychological, they are actually more concerned with their overall group status.
Behaviourally, I think this perfectly describes my friend Wolf. I have no idea how much he’s concerned about his “group status”, but he definitely fits the bill for everything else in this description. Basically, he likes people and people like him. A natural leader who generally commands social situations. Good for Wolf.
Sigma: The outsider who doesn’t play the social game and manage to win at it anyhow. I’ve found that sigmas and Alphas usually work out to be excellent friends because the Alpha never feels that his social dominance is threatened by the sigma. The Sigma is an alpha-like character that the Alpha can connect with, but never fear his own status being undone. Everyone else is vaguely confused by them. In a social situation, the sigma is the man who stops in briefly to say hello to a few friends accompanied by a Tier 1 girl that no one has ever seen before. Sigmas like women, but tend to be contemptuous of them. They are usually considered to be strange. Gammas often like to think they are sigmas, failing to understand that sigmas are not social rejects, they are at the top of the social hierarchy despite their refusal to play by its rules.
It’s unfortunate that describing yourself as this makes you look like a bragging prick, but who gives a shit.
I self-identify as a Sigma because, even before taking the red pill and learning game, I was that “likeable but weird” kid. People tended to, and still do in my opinion, view me like marmite. Even now with my increased social awareness, I’m perplexed by how someone will tell me I’m “such a weirdo”, then invite me out the next day.
Such is the life of a Sigma Male.
The bit in bold is interesting to, because when I had the Alpha/Beta mindset I wondered why, considering myself an Alpha, I wasn’t concerned with undermining people’s social statuses and making them look like pricks for fun. I have now found my answer – I don’t play the social game unless absolutely necessary (read: when doing so could acquire me money or opportunities).
So I’ve found a new identity, one which will probably me exacerbated by my disconnection from mainstream media and beliefs.
Introspective blog post over – back to being a boss wherever possible.