Always Add Value

Everyone who reads this blog should be familiar with this post.

The idea of value, and its 3 components, is central to understanding why some guys pull every time they’re out, or why some guys can sleep with multiple girls regularly without them minding, while other equally attractive and personable guys are effectively celibate. The higher your value, the better people will treat you and the more they’ll let you get away with. People won’t necessarily like you for it, but high value will never make them like you less.

Having covered what value is, the next step is implementing it.

Short answer: Always add value to an interaction, and seek interactions in which the other person adds value as well.

Long answer: This advice applies to a wide range of things. Sex, relationships, business, friendships, negotiation, job interviews, and any other situation where two or more people interact seeking mutual benefit (ie what JJ Roberts defines as a relationship). This advice applies equally the straight, gay, male, female and hermaphrodite readers (but remember that my definition of value refers specifically to straight men). A good interaction is one in which all parties add value, without giving up their autonomy. 

I’ll break that down for you. Part 1: all parties add value. You are “adding value” if the other person is glad the interaction took place. You may have given them good advice, caused a tingly ‘gina, cut them a good deal or fucked them senseless. As long as they’re glad it happened, you added value. Generally if someone comes back for more (conversation, second job interview, sex) then you added value.

The important part is that all parties add value, not just you. If you, as a high value male, fuck a girl who you aren’t attracted to (guilty) then you are adding value without her adding value. This is a bad interaction for you because you’re being mugged off. Interactions in which you don’t add value are the same, because the realisation that you’re taking advantage of someone will bring you down. There is a common misconception that players take advantage of women – this is not the case providing he adds value to her life.

Part 2: without giving up their autonomy. This means that you are interacting with people because you want to, not because you have to. I recently got a job at a supermarket because I want money, they hired me because they wanted me. Obligation is a pain in the arse, and saps value from your life. I would never sleep with someone out of obligation, and I wouldn’t want a woman to sleep with me out of it either.

I appreciate that this post is very abstract, so here’s an example.

Boy meets girl, the boy approaches girl and runs tight game, the girl is attractive and pleasant. Both parties are adding value, and are acting autonomously (because either is free to walk away). They fuck (adding value via good sex, autonomy via choosing to sleep together). Pretty simple right?

The only remaining question is whether there exists a clash between sexual aggression (primal/emotional value) and autonomy. There doesn’t, because sexual aggression should always be in a context where the girl is free to go. Erotic asphyxiation is one thing, knocking someone out and fucking their unconscious body is a different, morally reprehensible, kettle of fish.

If you make judgements about who to associate with based on value and become a high value person, you will get infinite happiness forever and level up every tuesday.