This one is a lot easier than forgiveness in terms of what to say, but much harder in terms of when to say it. The magic words: “I’m sorry”.
So how do you avoid the classic trap of over apologising. How do you differentiate between holding your head up like a man and admitting you’re wrong, and merely apologising for your own existence like a sackless shrew. It can be hard at times, luckily there is an easy way to deal with this.
If the tables were turned, would you expect an apology? If so, apologise. If not, don’t.
This sounds deceivingly simple, but once you start doing it you’ll notice two things.
Suddenly, the relative rarity of your apologies will give them value. This means that an apology has a much greater problem solving capacity. It’s similar to complements. Over complementary people suck the value out of their own compliments.
The only problem comes from bitches (over-masculine women and over-feminine men). Female bitches will not like that you don’t defer to them and place them on the pedestal that other men (also bitches) place them on. Male bitches will not like that you are “disrespectful” or “rude”. This is because male bitches value other people’s feelings and perceptions of them over their own integrity – and find it uncomfortable when other men don’t do the same.
Thankfully, bitches aren’t worth your time. Apologising like an alpha filters the bitches out of your life, leaving room for the men and women worth being around (ie those with self respect and those without an entitlement complex, respectively).