Most drastic improvement this month came from G Manifesto. His hangover cure is popping a multivitamin before bed. I decided to try this as a counter to early morning grogginess, suffice to say it works very well. Combined with a zinc tablet makes for a very good nights sleep and a good mood in the morning. Progress brah.
No progress on work related goals, because I’ve been to busy doing actual paid work. The change I’m testing this month is not allowing myself to do any “leisure activities” apart from sex until after 6pm.
Nearly finished 4 Hour Body.
Slowly but surely I’m chipping away at my overdraft. I’m currently looking into freelancing as well as using wizpert. Once I’m out of debt I’m gonna begin a project in affilate marketing. More info on this to come.
Convict Conditioning begins this month. I’m doing this first because it should aid in progress to other fitness goals. My other project is gonna be eating 4 meals a day rather than 2, and taking protein shakes.
1 new bang. My project for this (which will probably take more than 2 months, given how I don’t go out much) is to do 100 approaches. Social circle lays count towards my goal of 12 more girls, but don’t count as an approach. Only girls I’ve never met will count as an approach.
Massively neglected. I aim to work upwards so the aim for this month is to write for just 20 minutes a day.
I’m gonna change.
This is a goal setting lifestyle report. I’m setting long term concrete goals for my 7 beneficial habits, to be achieved by a year from now. I aim to reach these goals by implementing specific behaviours for a trial period, then continuing them if they work for me.
Here are my goals for each of the 7 beneficial habits, to be achieved by July 11th 2013
My plan for this simple – got to bed progressively earlier over time, nap and meditate.
Work (non paid work and GTD)
Gonna have to turn up and work hard to get 70%, but I’m determined not to have a repeat of this year. The blog promotion will be achieved by writing regularly and promoting my blog in a way that still contributes to the manosphere, the other 3 will just take some serious band hustle.
I have a reading list I’m burning through, just finished Sex 3.0 and about to start 4 hour body.
The first 2 will be achieved by taking all the over time I can get my hands on over summer, combined with student finance and careful budgeting. The third will be achieved through the development of passive income businesses, affilate marketing and whatever else I may learn through the year.
The first will either be done with those android apps, or by adding a rep each day – I’ll dabble with both until I find something that fits. I’m restarting CC from the beginning. I’ll be experimenting with various diet and supplementation changes to succeed with 3 and 4. Goal 5 will be down to gradually more frequent walks and some form of high intensity cardio once a week, as well as reduced smoking and drinking and a paleo diet.
The former requires the maintenance of my current unfenced relationships, the latter requires, to be blunt, going out more.
This will be achieved by gradually increasing the amount of time devoted to it, and doing it first thing every morning.
Our culture has lied to you about what constitutes a strong independent woman. Real feminine strength is what our grandmothers had while their husbands were fighting for their country. How many “strong independent women” could handle an emotional burden like that? My guess is very few. I want strong, independent women in my life, but when I say strong and independent I mean:
I want a woman strong enough to resist relationship duress enough to facilitate an unfenced relationship.
I want a woman independent enough to not require the input of her friends for every major decision.
I want a woman strong enough to get her validation from within, not her job, her social status or wealth.
I want a woman independent enough to not narcissistically worry “what she’s done wrong” in the event that I don’t want to hang out.
I want a woman strong enough to lower her bitch shield and be honest, open and vulnerable. Someone brave enough to bring the walls down.
I want a woman independent enough to have actual, constructive hobbies. Shopping does not count as a hobby.
I want a woman strong enough to always make the effort to look feminine and sexy, even if she isn’t feeling up to it.
I want a woman independent enough to not require constant external validation from facebook, texting and other social media.
I want a woman strong enough to put up with sexist humour, emotional roller coasters and rough sex (that’s how most of my relationships with women are).
This is not the same as the “Strong Independent Woman(tm)” promoted to us by Sex in the City, Cosmo and various other manifestations of societal decay. Being a catty, neurotic, shallow bitch who acts like a man but with a vagina is not strength, it’s cowardice. Taking shelter in a fortress of asocial and unnatural behaviour is a defence mechanism for people without the strength to present themselves as they truly are. Climbing the corporate ladder doesn’t take strength, it takes manipulation, ass kissing and sociopathy. Having an emotionless, sex only love life is nothing but a sign of a lack of willingness/ability to connect with the opposite sex. Overcoming this takes strength, as does letting go of any jealousy about your partners other lovers.
Of course you’ll never read this in Cosmo, because to them strength is neurotic, self absorbed validation seeking. The result is a lot of lonely, deluded women and a lot of sexually frustrated men. It’s lose – lose.
Hello, yes I am still alive. No my exams are not going well, but never mind. I want to talk about this site, and it’s direction in the coming months, before dropping my monthly accountability bomb.
PLANS FOR SUMMER
That should keep me pretty busy then, onto the lifestyle report.
No more sleep problems! I sleep 7 – 9 hours a night and although I sometimes go to bed at like 4am, this doesn’t cause problems the night after. The secret? Disco naps, meditation and zinc tablets.
I’ve built my focus using the pomodoro technique, which is really helping with exams. My actual paid work is dull, hence the various money earning goals in the above list. The one I’m most excited about is freelance writing, essentially being paid to practice blogging. Neat huh. My next step in this area is going to be looking in to fixed schedule productivity.
I was so sleep deprived last time that I forgot this bit. I finally got round to Frost’s revised version of F25. All I can say is that it’s much better than the first. This book has also started a friend on his own red pill journey. If you have any friends that need a bit of red pill therapy, but don’t want to force it down their throats, recommend this book to them. I also decided to read a psychology book called 59 seconds. This book is interesting in that it is a self help book where the advice is based on empirical, repeatable studies. This is a cool concept and offers some very insightful and interesting advice. The best part is the chapter on attraction. Any “game aware” guy reading this will see the core concepts shining through, as well as the clawing attempts to reframe them in a politically correct way. I’m currently finishing up Sex 3.0, review coming soon.
All fine and dandy, I just want more of it. The site already runs google adsense, my intention is to add a “bookshelf” page of the books I’ve read and intend to read, with affilate links through which readers can buy the books. Once this is set up along with a new layout, I’m going to divide my time between freelance writing and growing the site’s audience via regular posting here (1 post every 2 days), tumblr (daily posts), twitter, the forum, and writing guest posts for other blogs. Once I’ve reached the goal of 1000 hits per day the promotion will continue, but with time spent on creating a saleable information product for the site.
This part of my life is going very well. I’ve quit cigarettes for good, and have struck a balance with weed where it doesn’t affect my drive or ambition. I drink far less now. I’m eating SPFY as before, but now with the addition of eating liver a couple of times a week. Dat nutrient dense organ meat. I’m eating by a (rough) meal plan to help with gaining a bit of weight. Children’s multivitamins have joined the ACV and fish oil in my supplement regime. As for exercise – convict conditioning is slowly progressing. I’ve added a daily mini routine: 100 push ups, sit ups and squats, and 20 pull ups, per day, spread through the day. The eventual goal is just a straight set of each every day, but I’m not there yet. Over summer I intend to add a daily protein shake into the mix, along with doing a short, daily yoga routine. My only reservation here is whether eating to gain mass when doing convict conditioning could lead to poor results. Time will tell.
One new notch, a one night stand. Went radio silent on me for a week then texted me at like 2am, when I was asleep. Now she’s back on silence – never mind. The only bad point is that she is one of those “no means yes sometimes” girls. That’s kinda hot but when a girl goes silent on you after sex, and says that shit the night before, paranoia about false rape accusations sets in. Obviously I was over reacting, I probably just didn’t make her come. Outside of casual sex, I’m maintaining 2 or 3 unfenced relationships with those rare girls who are chill enough to let me do my thing.
As you can see, I’m doing fuck all writing. The consequence of this is a file on my computer called “post ideas” being absolutely huge. I can’t wait to be back writing properly again.
Adios hombres, I’ll be free soon.
From a blogging perspective, this month was interesting. I published a series of posts that made April 23rd my busiest day ever, then making the 25th even busier. I was pretty chuffed that people were reading and commenting on my shit. (Thanks to Ferd at in bona fide for all the linkage).
My band also released an EP, the launch party was sick.
So how’s the rest of my life coming along?
As I write this I’m in a sleep drain. It’s where you deliberately skip a nights sleep then go to bed early the next day to reset your sleeping pattern. Its not fun but it works, Breaking Bad is carrying me through. Yes, this demonstrates that I still cannot sleep right.
I have a job as you all know, I got some tax back recently too. Regarding uni I’m still chipping away with my 3 hours hard focus a day – as well as using a lot of goal setting and planning techniques I picked up from the book I’m currently reading. Things are going pretty well in this department.
Had to front a bit for the EP launch, and a handful of people owe me some cash. Around £100 total. Thankfully I have a glorious interest free student overdraft, and a job. So I’ve basically got this handled too.
Doing convict conditioning, taking it very slowly and enjoying every rep. My diet isn’t as good thanks to a delivery kebab shop and my impulsive nature, but I’m just gonna rationalise that as the “fuck you” element of Frost’s SPFYD.
Regular but no new notches, not leaving the house enough. Flaked on by social circle prospects. The plan is to finish exams and ten follow Roosh’s 9 step program over summer.
I doubt he’ll read this, but fuck you random Amsterdam kebab shop owner.
Mr Kebab man did not like this. He proceeded to publicly tell me off in front of all his customers. My crime? Not paying for a woman he didn’t know. He was so enraged by the fact that she had to pay that he gave her a free drink to make things right.
I ate my food and had a bit of the free drink while he watched.
Chivalry is a two way street Kebab man. If you don’t realise this it will come back to haunt you in the future.
You recently ran this article about MRAs. I would like to applaud and congratulate you for not making them look like a bunch of evil misogynist rapists. Well done.
I am not an MRA as such, I do however sympathise with a lot of their issues. To this end I feel the need to point something out to you.
You repeatedly refer to the gender pay gap, citing that women earn less than men in all sectors, and that the only time women earn more is if you restrict the age range to 22-29. These figures are based on yearly salary.
I’m not writing to argue, I just suggest that you take the average yearly salary for men and for women, and divide it by the average amount of hours worked per week by the respective genders.
Then you’ll see the real pay gap.
It’s my birthday today. I’m not religious so good Friday can go fuck itself. Also, I worked yesterday and today, and I am again tomorrow – a true adults birthday.
I’m turning 19, which is possibly the most pointless age in existence. Purgatory between being allowed to get drunk and not being considered “one o’ them evil teenagers that goes around causing riots and stuff“. But I’m not complaining.
In fact I’m glad. I’m glad I’m not obliged to go out and get smashed. No don’t get me wrong, clubbing is one of my favourite pass times but as with all hobbies, it’s only fun when you don’t HAVE to do it. The same happens to be true for relationships, but I digress.
Also an announcement – I have my second year house sorted. I’m living with 4 friends and we actually managed to find a place I’d be proud to bring girls back to. I’ll post some pictures when I move in. We’re moving in in July so I get to work, party and fuck my way through Summer in Brighton.
Anyway – time for SiME’s monthly dose of accountability.
I have a job now, so I kinda have to get up early. A useful tactic I’ve found is simply working out when I have to go to bed by, then writing it down in my badass journal. The increased accountability seems to help really well. The journal has also been good for writing down ideas so that I don’t spend the night scheming when I should be sleeping.
Seeing as I now have a job, I’m gonna have to balance this with uni work. I’m still off for easter at the moment so I’ll reserve comment on maintaining a study/work balance just yet.
Guess what, I have a job. This means a 1.5 – 2 hour round trip on the bus. This means lots of reading time. Since my last lifestyle report I’ve finished Day Bang and the first version of Freedom Twenty Five. I’m currently reading a book called Convict Conditioning. This book really challenges conventional notions about exercise. The paleo/primal fans should no definitely give this one a look. Next on my list is the revised version of Freedom Twenty Five, and Sex 3.0.
12.5 hours a week at £6.50/hour, being paid every four weeks (why doesn’t every employer do this? It makes so much more sense than monthly paychecks), with a load of overtime available throughout the year. This means a minimum of £325 per month to supplement my student loans and savings. Because I’m moving in to my new house in July, rather than spending the summer living with my parents, I’m gonna save all my wages and stick to the same £100 a week budget as before. This should give me enough for rent and expenses over summer (when no student loans are paid, obviously).
I’m blitzing through Convict Conditioning so that I can start this program. Otherwise body weight training is going well except that my pull up bar doesn’t like the doorframes in my halls. As for diet – semi paleo ftw. I’ve got an upcoming diet post that will be the first in a series about health. Stay tuned.
Rotation’s still (!) going strong, acquired a new notch. Turns out she wasn’t that crazy. So I might try and make her semi regular. Also working on other prospects. I have a feeling this new house will be an amazing tool over summer, for girls on a night out who are from a different town, and for prospects visiting to “hang out”.
I wrote a bunch of posts that you should read, and decided to keep a journal (see yesterday’s post). Feels good to have a clear mind.
While I try and implement this gosh darn ad code. I need to place the code before Google can approve my site, so there’ll be random gaps all over the gaff.
Seeing as I didn’t make it onto a human rights organisation’s hitlist, and I have updated my disclaimer, I reckon I’ll get approved.
Wish me luck!
The 30 day list.
Whenever you see or think of something you want to buy, write it down in a note file with the date you thought of it. You then simply forget about it, and are only allowed to consider buying the item 30 days after the date you first wrote it down.
If you get the urge to buy something, you can spend hours deliberating whether it’s worth it. By using a 30 day list you’ll find that once you’re “allowed” to buy it, your subconscious will have decided whether it is a worthwhile purchase.
It’s like a regimented version of “sleeping on it”. It works too. Recent items that I would have bought on impulse but rejected by waiting 30 days include a money clip
and a zippo, as well as a couple of over hyped books. Had I not waited I would have bought these things.
Without a doubt this method saves money, and more importantly the burden of making a decision instantly.
Buying things is a trivial luxury, and does not deserve too much thought. Let your subconscious handle that shit.
Try it for yourself and see.